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Single.

Yup I’m single. Okay I know that is no secret, but I’ve been thinking about the state of “singleness” these days. I mean it’s hard not to when lots of people around me are in a relationship and every week I seem to get a save the date or wedding invitation in the mail. And then here I am living my life, staying busy, and still single. I love my life and of course at this current moment I’m not sure where I would fit a relationship into my schedule, but anyway…

I think most single females would say they think about getting married and when that perfect boy will finally come along, but I’ve just gotten tired of always thinking “what’s next’ and “when?”. Why do we feel like this time of singleness is just a time to hold out until what is next? Why do so many of us think there’s something wrong with us if we aren’t married by the time we’re 23? There’s nothing wrong with me and there’s no reason for me to feel ashamed of being single at this point of my life because honestly sometimes people make me feel that way.

I was reading an article in Relevant magazine about singleness and it was really good. One thing it said was:

“Singleness is not a disease to be cured; it is a stage of life to be enjoyed. Too often, we try to rush through it.” 
So I’m going to enjoy this time of my life. Honestly, I know there will still be times where I struggle and I think that’s normal, but I think as single woman we need to re-adjust our way of thinking.  The author of the article leaves you with this challenge:
“I challenge you to revel in your singleness. Take pleasure in the down time. Don’t waste your time on “what ifs” and “if onlys,” but instead reap the benefits of where you are today, right now.” 
Here’s the link to the article if you’re interested. It, of course, says things way better than I could:
http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/blog/25590-single-and-not-alone
Also…random note, but one year ago this month I graduated from college. Weird.